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22 May 2025
My lessons from heartbreak
Nic and I broke up. It feels really vulnerable to share this with you all — here are my lessons from the messy middle of the healing portal.
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22 May 2025
How to tell someone you're attracted to them
Have you ever held back from telling someone you're attracted to them, because you didn't want to make things weird? Here's how to share it in a way that's light and easy to receive.
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16 September 2024
1 important lesson that saves most arguments
So … I had a fight. Here's a personal story about the subtle 'shame dynamic' that derails conflict — how to spot it, why it happens, and what to do about it.
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11 September 2024
What Dating is like for Men
The pressure to be the 'hot, confident, playful guy who has his shit together.' I've heard the same pressures and insecurities from so many male clients that I wanted to capture them in one place.
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30 November 2023
A vulnerable story from me today
"I want to have sex with someone but my partner feels uncomfortable about it. What do I do?" A hugely personal poly story about jealousy, conflicting needs, and taking a stand.
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20 June 2023
How to make casual sex work for you
How do you define casual sex or casual relating? I'd start by saying it's important to make your own definition — here's what I've learned about doing it consciously.
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29 December 2022
Why I'm so great at flirting
A 5 min read over a tea. I always wondered why people came to me for flirting advice — so I set out to consciously learn my secret sauce. Here are my 5 tips to be an effortless flirt.
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29 December 2022
The "taking too long" myth
It's no secret that many women have faked orgasms because they feel anxiety to orgasm in a timely manner. Our genitals are wired differently — here's what helped me let go of that pressure.
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11 March 2019
How to Revive Your Sex Life
Such a classic story, right? You meet your partner, you have an incredible sex life, and then suddenly you're barely having sex anymore. Here's why it dries up — and how to revive it.
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11 March 2019
Erotic Block for Men 👉🏼 Predatory Fear 😳
The block for men is not the 'predatory-ness' of men per se, but the FEAR of predatory-ness. Here's how that closes off the direct route to pleasure — and how to open it back up.
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11 March 2019
How my need for freedom ruined my….
I just came back from ISTA and my head is exploding. This piece is about how we sabotage our relationships — by Selecting, Distorting, and Provoking to confirm our old stories.
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11 March 2019
I don't know what I want in sex
We're all so busy guessing what the other person wants, but what about you? Being in consent with ourselves is easily one of the biggest game changers for great sex.
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